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Originally Posted by Tamaman  Everything in this country has gone excessive/extreme,nothing is taboo here anymore and there is a whole lot of bad shit on the horizon coming our way countrywide and worldwide. I've got a 6 year old daughter and i'm scared to death about her future. |
Oh yeah, me too! And I have three
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Originally Posted by Penelope Did you make the decision to get pregant at 17? And, if you did or didn't does that make you a bad person? I don't think so. You seem to be level headed and have a good heart so you and your parents did something right.
I'm glad I didn't have any more children because of the way things are. I wouldn't want to bring another child into this world but I don't want the two that I have to be biased against having their own when the time comes because of my views. I try not to express it in front of either of them. I have told them though that it is something to think really hard about because it's not like having a puppy. |
Mark and I talk about it a lot too... how guilty we feel for them at times, that's a strong word, guilt... an even stronger emotion, but I think it is exaclty how we feel at times. I want so badly for my kids to experience what it was like to play at a park and not have to have cameras or trick-or-treat for hours and not worry about the candy...that kind of stuff...
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Originally Posted by guitarest I disagree with you, just because you had a child at 17 does not make you a bad person. What makes someone a bad person is having the kid and not taking the responsibility of the child. From what I know of you your a good person.
One of my sons friends had a child at the same age and she is a douche bag / bad person / user. |
You said something about it being the parent's fault. Many times my parents have been blamed with "bad parenting" for my decision to not use protection. I think parents are too quickly blamed for their child's actions. I can honestly say that my parents stressed birth control, once I admitted to just WANTING to become sexually active. They were suportive, did everything by the book (so to speak) and yet, when it came time, Mark and I made the decision to get pregnant. We atually TRIED. Sounds crazy now, and if I knew how hard it would be we would've waited (I hate saying stuff like that though, ya know, I don't regret my children in any way, but it aint easy either!) That's all I was saying...
Mark and I are not of the norm. I can't sit here and say I was a saint and have never messed up, but my kids have kept my head on straight for me (a little crooked at times, but who cares, haha). I know MANY parents, some who are in their 30's and 40's who are horrible parents... that doesn't mean their parents were horrible though.
I do, however, believe strong parenting and guidance will strengthen a child. If I had a bettter bond with my parents, love and more respect (RESPECT being the keyword) and maybe a better understanding of how many people are effected by one's actions, then we may have been thinking in larger terms...not just in that moment
I hope this makes sense...I've had a long ass day haha