When a friend in another band...?

ssspert · 04-24-2008, 12:06 AM

When a friend asks you to come check his band out, surely he knows that his band isn't up to par.
What do you say when he asks...
What do you think?

do you say???

1) You guys are the shit! Please don't forget me when ya'll pass up Three doors down, and creed.
2) Dude ya'll sound like ass.
3) Ya'll need alot more practice.
4) Man ya'll need some polishing.
5) You should fire everybody, and start over again.

The Wayniac · 04-24-2008, 08:58 AM

I would say that being honest is the best thing.

The truth may hurt a few feelings, but in the end, wasting time with an awful band, the dude may come back years later and say "why didn't anyone tell me we were that awful?"

Penelope · 04-24-2008, 09:12 AM

I think the truth is best but you could put it in a more constructive critism way. I voted for the polishing one but like I said...

The Good Reverend, MATCHEW · 04-24-2008, 09:20 AM

be honest.

Penelope · 04-24-2008, 09:21 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The Good Reverend, MATCHEW

be honest.

Who are you and what did you do with Matt?

R0XY · 04-24-2008, 09:24 AM

LOL Girl you funny!

I would say be honest but do it in a way to where it's constructive critism I wouldn't just be an ass with it..

The Good Reverend, MATCHEW · 04-24-2008, 09:26 AM

ha ha.

Marc · 04-24-2008, 10:42 AM

Be honest and give them your thoughts. If you can offer advice on how to improve, be sure to include that.

Just telling someone they suck doesn't help at all. You need to tell them what sucks about their band.

savereno · 04-24-2008, 10:50 AM

Two stories:

1) Listened to a band with a friend. We both agreed that they sucked ass, be he felt obliged to go to their shows, because they were friends. Band steps off stage. Asks my friend, "so what do you think." My friend replies, "Oh, totally awesome shits, yo!" I knew then and there to be honest, and I would want others to say, "Dude, no, go work on it."

2) Checked out a friends band. My friend was a hell of a bass player, not the best technically, but he knew how to rock out. His band was so lame, and so dead, that he as the bass player had to take center stage and be "the show". Nothing against bass players, but most of the time the singer needs to win the crowd and get them into it. My friend comes off stage, and asks "What do you think?" I say, "Dude, when did you join Three Doors Down?" That was my way of saying it sucked, and you need to work on your own sound, instead of ripping off every radio band out there. He was my friend, he deserved to be in a better band, or at least have his band try a little harder. It may have been blunt, but that is my style, and he understood that. I think he deserved the truth.

Anyway, so yeah, a lot of nothing to say tell them the truth.

ssspert · 04-24-2008, 12:17 PM

Great
I'm with Marc on this but...
My opinion and the friends opinions may differ for 2 reasons.
1- musical tastes
2- friends do not have any idea what is good, they are biased.

Its best not to give your honest opinion when they are within earshot of other band members or band friends, unless you want to fight your way out.
Of course if your friend in the band is an idiot and tells them immediately. Hey John Guitarist, Bert said you tone sounded like a cat scratching on a chalkboard, can you do something about it?
John's come back...man I got the baddest lil crate combo for $200...tone doesn't get any better than a crate.
DUDE...Its time to fire John or take him to the music store, and upgrade from the crate.
Preferably something with TONE.
Of course when you are creed, 3DD, SOAD, Disturbed, and metallica mixed wannabes. Power cords is you forte, who gives a shit? Your friends love it.

My last gig I ended up in the middle of the stage...
Yeah my ugly ass on center stage.
I moved the mic stands around where Lisa was front and center.
I sing very little lead, mostly harmonies.
On bass solos I am front and center, to show boat a little.
I prefer not having any accompaniment when I solo.
It throws me off. I march to the beat of a different drummer.
LOL

View Poll Results: What do you say?
You guys are the shit! Please don't forget me when ya'll pass up Three doors down, and creed.	1	11.11%
Dude ya'll sound like ass.	2	22.22%
Ya'll need alot more practice.	1	11.11%
Man ya'll need some polishing.	2	22.22%
You should fire everybody, and start over again.	2	22.22%
(what would you say?)	1	11.11%
Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 9. You may not vote on this poll

04-24-2008, 12:06 AM	#1 (permalink)
ssspert Band Member Productive GCB Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: wemo Posts: 1,340 Rep Power: 9	When a friend in another band...? When a friend asks you to come check his band out, surely he knows that his band isn't up to par. What do you say when he asks... What do you think? do you say??? 1) You guys are the shit! Please don't forget me when ya'll pass up Three doors down, and creed. 2) Dude ya'll sound like ass. 3) Ya'll need alot more practice. 4) Man ya'll need some polishing. 5) You should fire everybody, and start over again. __________________ Straight Shots Myspace page My Myspace Bass page email ME for Straight Shot booking information. GULF COAST MUSIC MAGAZINE Sometimes it doesn't pay to be nice. It pays to be truthful, and honest with yourself.

04-24-2008, 08:58 AM	#2 (permalink)
The Wayniac Moderator Band Whore Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Mobile Posts: 804 Rep Power: 40	I would say that being honest is the best thing. The truth may hurt a few feelings, but in the end, wasting time with an awful band, the dude may come back years later and say "why didn't anyone tell me we were that awful?" __________________ "Just go nuts with it." ~ Les Claypool

04-24-2008, 09:12 AM	#3 (permalink)
Penelope Band Whore Join Date: Jun 2005 Age: 3 Posts: 656 Rep Power: 41	I think the truth is best but you could put it in a more constructive critism way. I voted for the polishing one but like I said... __________________ The woods are lovely, dark, and deep, but I have promises to keep and miles to go before I sleep...

04-24-2008, 09:20 AM	#4 (permalink)
The Good Reverend, MATCHEW Agent Jones, at your service. GCB Senior Citizen Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Ocean Springs, MS Posts: 2,297 Rep Power: 31	be honest. __________________ www.Ko-Lija.com www.MySpace.com/KoLija www.MySpace.com/OSMUSICFEST

04-24-2008, 09:24 AM	#6 (permalink)
R0XY Productive GCB Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Gulfport Age: 25 Posts: 1,230 Rep Power: 15	LOL Girl you funny! I would say be honest but do it in a way to where it's constructive critism I wouldn't just be an ass with it.. __________________ We're adults. When did that happen? And how do we make it stop?

04-24-2008, 09:26 AM	#7 (permalink)
The Good Reverend, MATCHEW Agent Jones, at your service. GCB Senior Citizen Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Ocean Springs, MS Posts: 2,297 Rep Power: 31	ha ha. __________________ www.Ko-Lija.com www.MySpace.com/KoLija www.MySpace.com/OSMUSICFEST

04-24-2008, 10:42 AM	#8 (permalink)
Marc Administrator GCB Senior Citizen Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: The hearts of women everywhere. Age: 28 Posts: 2,707 Rep Power: 47	Be honest and give them your thoughts. If you can offer advice on how to improve, be sure to include that. Just telling someone they suck doesn't help at all. You need to tell them what sucks about their band. __________________ GCB Myspace Need Guitar Tabs? Need Song Lyrics?

04-24-2008, 10:50 AM	#9 (permalink)
savereno Screamo for Emo Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 238 Rep Power: 12	Two stories: 1) Listened to a band with a friend. We both agreed that they sucked ass, be he felt obliged to go to their shows, because they were friends. Band steps off stage. Asks my friend, "so what do you think." My friend replies, "Oh, totally awesome shits, yo!" I knew then and there to be honest, and I would want others to say, "Dude, no, go work on it." 2) Checked out a friends band. My friend was a hell of a bass player, not the best technically, but he knew how to rock out. His band was so lame, and so dead, that he as the bass player had to take center stage and be "the show". Nothing against bass players, but most of the time the singer needs to win the crowd and get them into it. My friend comes off stage, and asks "What do you think?" I say, "Dude, when did you join Three Doors Down?" That was my way of saying it sucked, and you need to work on your own sound, instead of ripping off every radio band out there. He was my friend, he deserved to be in a better band, or at least have his band try a little harder. It may have been blunt, but that is my style, and he understood that. I think he deserved the truth. Anyway, so yeah, a lot of nothing to say tell them the truth.

04-24-2008, 12:17 PM	#10 (permalink)
ssspert Band Member Productive GCB Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: wemo Posts: 1,340 Rep Power: 9	Great I'm with Marc on this but... My opinion and the friends opinions may differ for 2 reasons. 1- musical tastes 2- friends do not have any idea what is good, they are biased. Its best not to give your honest opinion when they are within earshot of other band members or band friends, unless you want to fight your way out. Of course if your friend in the band is an idiot and tells them immediately. Hey John Guitarist, Bert said you tone sounded like a cat scratching on a chalkboard, can you do something about it? John's come back...man I got the baddest lil crate combo for $200...tone doesn't get any better than a crate. DUDE...Its time to fire John or take him to the music store, and upgrade from the crate. Preferably something with TONE. Of course when you are creed, 3DD, SOAD, Disturbed, and metallica mixed wannabes. Power cords is you forte, who gives a shit? Your friends love it. My last gig I ended up in the middle of the stage... Yeah my ugly ass on center stage. I moved the mic stands around where Lisa was front and center. I sing very little lead, mostly harmonies. On bass solos I am front and center, to show boat a little. I prefer not having any accompaniment when I solo. It throws me off. I march to the beat of a different drummer. LOL __________________ Straight Shots Myspace page My Myspace Bass page email ME for Straight Shot booking information. GULF COAST MUSIC MAGAZINE Sometimes it doesn't pay to be nice. It pays to be truthful, and honest with yourself. Last edited by ssspert; 04-24-2008 at 04:58 PM.